Five Ideas for Dates When You Have Young Kids {That Worked for Us}

Some years ago I wrote a post on Dating Your Husband with Children. That was before we had our 3rd. Now that all our 3 kids are bigger, here are Five Ideas for Dates When You Have Young Kids that worked for us.

1. Movie night date in our living room. This is after hours, when everyone is asleep. Usually we end up just watching an episode of a favourite show. But once in a while we actually get to sit through a whole movie!

2. Lunch date. Since both of us work relatively close to each other, we go on lunch dates. We get to spend a couple of hours just the two of us.

3. Bicycle ride date. We haven’t done many of those. We actually went on just ONE bicycle ride just the two of us. But it is in the plans!

4. Salsa night date. This would only work if you have an older child who can babysit. Even in our case this babysitting happened for 1 hour while the over two were down for the night, and we were just 10 minutes car ride away.

5. Nap date. This is what we do sometimes during our lunch break – we pass out for a short nap! I love that Chinese schools usually have long lunch break where both children and teachers can go for a nice rest. So we take advantage of that.

Today is my husband’s birthday! So I dedicate this post to him!

Feel free to share your ideas with ms!

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Special Guest Thursday: Super – Noche {Kid World Citizen}

Welcome to Special Guest Thursday!
When I first started blogging seriously I virtually met some incredible bloggers and even wrote guest posts for them. One of them is Becky of Kid World Citizen – a blog and an amazing source for everything in regard of raising global citizens. I was impressed how easy going Becky was and how multicultural and accepting her family was.
Today I am very happy to have her as a special Thursday guest. Being a mom of 5 she shares some insights on and importance of family traditions and how to organise a date night with children!

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Becky is the mom of 5 multicultural kids, an ESL teacher, author of The Global Education Toolkit for Elementary Learners and founder of KidWorldCitizen.org. She is passionate about activities that teach kids cultural and global awareness, and shares them on TpT, facebook and twitter.

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Wherever I go, I am asked if I own a daycare or run a school. It could be because I have 5 kids (it’s only five though, we’re not as large as the  Duggar’s!)… or because the kids look like they are all almost the same age (our 9 year olds are 3 months apart and our 7 year olds are 1 month apart.. and we are fostering a baby boy). Probably though, it’s because our family has a mixture of cultures, and kids who are both biological and adopted, and it’s hard to believe: “they are all yours!?”

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When we were trudging through the immense amount of papers and social worker visits in order to be “approved” as an adoptive or foster family, we had to take hours of training on raising children. Due to the nature of adoption, our kids have been through traumas that have changed their little hearts and minds, in order to protect themselves.

The most important job of any parent is to surround our children with unconditional love, so they feel (and are) protected, attended to, accepted, and adored. Because the bonding process is intensified with kids who have lost the only family they have known, our training included ways to facilitate attachment, and to connect with our children. One of the most important ways to do so is to spend one-on-one time with each of your children, on a consistent basis- no screens, no phones, no interruptions.

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Agreeing that it’s necessary to give individual attention is one thing, but going through with it is the challenge- we’re all either working, hustling through chores, chauffeuring kids to sports and dance and violin, trying to get dinner on the table, helping with homework, etc. The list is endless! And yet- whether you are an adoptive family, whether you work inside the home, outside the home, whether you have 10 kids or a singleton, whether you’re a single parent, or you have grandparents nearby (well, then I’m really envious), – all of our kids can benefit from a little dedicated, individual attention.

One way our family has fun with this is to plan a“date night”— or as we call it in our house a “super-noche” (Spanish for “super night”).

We started off when the kids were little, as a way for either me or my husband to take one (or sometimes 2) of our kids on a special outing at night- sometimes even on  school night! Sometimes it’s dressing up and going out for ice cream or hot cider, other times it’s going to see a show, go on a long bike ride, or go dancing in the Town Square. It doesn’t have to be expensive- in fact my sons’ favorite super-noche is to go to a nearby stream and throw rocks in the water. We have spent hours walking by the water looking for baby alligators (we live outside Houston!) and talking about “stuff.”

Without the interruptions of the other kids, and with no hurry to get back, the conversation flows easily. We made a rule that anything we talk about on a super-noche is a secret from the other kids, and all of a sudden I’m hearing stories from school and the playground that they didn’t want to share at the dinner table: who likes who, or something embarrassing or silly. 

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Our date nights have become a family tradition that I hope we will continue throughout their lives. With our busy schedules and homework and crazy running after school, these special times are one way we reconnect with each of our kids. Thought our super-noches might only last about an hour, we hope the memories of the special times last much longer.

Dating your husband with children

How many families have an ongoing issue with “reviving” the romance due to spending all the free time with children? How many complain that they can never go on a date because of young children? As parents with young children and no family/babysitter have you been able to get out on a date? Most probably you will say “no”.

Well, good news for you is that you don’t have to wait till all your children are old enough to be left on their own – you CAN go on a date… with your children.

What is a date basically? It is a time two people spend together getting to know each other or indulging into a quality time to show each other more love and affection. I don’t see a reason why it can’t be done with your children around.

Here are some ideas for such dates:

1. A family picnic.

2. A boat ride on the lake.

3. A bike ride around an island, in a park or by the seaside.

4. A lunch/dinner in a fancy restaurant.

5. A surprise coffee invitation.

6. A surprise trip to the cinema.

How can you ensure it is still a date and not just a family outing? I really don’t think there is a way to do it. But!

Here are few things for you to keep in mind when you organize such a date:

1. Simply keep it in mind and don’t let occasional interruption to make you forget it.

2. To make it even more special, make a date invitation card stating place, time, theme and dress code.

3. Be flexible and try to relax- dating with your children can be tricky and a bit stressful!

4. Show each other more affection than usually – your children learn about relationships from you!

I love our little spontaneous or schedule dates/activities. It helps us spend more quality time with each other, brings warmth to our hearts and puts a smile on our face.

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